Collaboration: Divorcing With Dignity

In my 25 years of practice as a clinical psychologist, I have had the privilege of helping many couples resolve their differences and improve their marriages. I have also had the misfortune to treat couples who have come to me too late, built up layers of resentment and hostility, and dissolve into irreconcilable differences. For too many, I have watched the legal system add fuel to the fire and more misery to the lives not only of those adults but also the children and extended families of each partner.

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Collaborative Law...Helping Families Move to a Stronger Future

I'll never forget a custody case I had some years ago.  I sat in a judge's chambers and watched while he asked three girls between the ages of 6 and 13 if they'd rather live with their mother or their father.  The 13 year old had shut herself in her bedroom that morning, refusing to come out, and we didn't know if we'd even be able to get her to come to court.  All three were crying.  They told the judge that while they wanted to spend time with their father, they wanted to live primarily with their mother.  So, after many hours of negotiation, the judge entered an order giving the mother primary custody of the girls.  I represented the mother, and she was ecstatic. This was considered a victory. 

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Divorce Without Anger

Once we have made the decision to separate from and divorce our partner, we are faced with the emotional fallout. Not just your emotions, but your estranged partner’s and if there are children, theirs as well.  What seemed to be a very logical decision has now morphed into the messiness we were hoping to avoid.

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